Forget the sober diagrams and condom-clad bananas of your high school days; these classes feature real, live naked people having real, live sex. Instead of a sterile classroom, these workshops take place on elaborately designed porn sets (without cameras present). The class subjects range from oral sex to dirty talk, but this week I happened to attend a “g-spot and female ejaculation” class led by adult performer and director Madison Young. Our set: an ornate Edwardian living room filled with oriental rugs, red velvet curtains and dark wood paneling.
Our lives are demanding, we work long hours, and many of us have arduous and sometimes unsatisfying careers. Our senses are being overly stimulated by the world around us all the time. We put constant demands on ourselves to succeed. And then, we are expected to go home and be madly, deeply, and passionately in love with our partners. That’s asking a lot. Yoga is a form of stress release. It gives us time to reflect, away from the hustle and bustle. It makes our bodies feel strong, nimble, graceful…better. It calms our minds and allows us clarity of thought and action. These are all things that can improve our performance in the bedroom and this is why yoga, and its poses, can be great for sex.
We talk about sex tapes, affairs, baby bumps…anything and everything to do with our sex lives, except contraception. The UN declares access to birth control to be a “universal human right.” The CDC calls the advent of modern contraception one of the 10 greatest public health achievements of the 20th century. When women have a say in planning and spacing their pregnancies, everyone benefits. I am grateful every day for the opportunities I’ve had to be a mom and to have a career, all at the same time. That’s because I got to decide when I was ready to start a family—a tremendous freedom that I don’t take for granted.